Friday, July 4, 2014

Land of the Free

July 4, 1776 was the birth of a new nation; a nation of unity, promise, hope, independence, and freedom for all.

Fast-forward to today and I still see a nation enslaved, bound by the chains of their past.

Many people in America have lost their fight; the edge that gave them perseverance, bravery, and confidence. Instead, they cower and retreat into their corners, afraid of their own reflection.

What reflection? The one that shows them the truth. What truth? The truth about who they are and whose they are; the truth that there is more than meets the eye; the truth that they were made to be free.

When we take a reflective look at the past of our American ancestry, we see a people oppressed. Pilgrims that journeyed across the Atlantic to this land of refuge were no different. Our entire country was built by a people in search of  freedom. In fact, our country is made up of freedom fighters that have battled their way out of bondage in one form or another. It truly is remarkable just how far we have come as a nation from the day our founding fathers passed the official Declaration of Independence to now. We Americans just seem to have it all together.

The only things we can't seem to get under control are debt, divorces, and a distorted sense of self. The reason? Ourselves. Better yet, our selves. Why, you ask? Well, the answer is quite simple. We have no idea who we are and we have no idea what we are doing.

So many people roam the country looking for themselves in all the wrong places. Many try to fit roles that serve them absolutely no purpose simply because they think this particular role is going to bring them happiness. They are in denial of their true identity, kinda like trying to fit into clothes that are 2 sizes too small.

There are some people that just can't get over the fact that they may never be what it is that they aspire to be. Not that aspiring to be anything or reaching for the stars is wrong, but some people take it to another level of immaturity and ignorance. Take for example those that audition for American Idol. Some are completely oblivious to their own vocal abilities or lack thereof. Sadly, even when confronted by the judges that their voices are just not up to par for the part, some blatantly and pridefully walk away looking for another opportunity in the spotlight believing that they will be anything but a joke.

Sound childish? That's because it is. Unfortunately, our immature mindsets don't always mature with age. Day after day, people go on living life believing that all life's about is what they see in front of them. The excuse? I was born this way. Born to be a gangster, born to be a millionaire, born to be abused, born to abuse, born to be a star, born to be homosexual, born to be a murderer, born to be judgemental, born to be alone...the list goes on.

The sad thing about this type of mindset is that it makes one a victim of circumstance. For once did any of these people look inwardly to see if, indeed, there was something in them that made them believe that this was all there is? Did anyone bother to reach deep into their past, the often untapped part of their brain to find out why they are how they are? If the desire is not to look at oneself, then yes. This is all you are and all there is to life...for you.


If your desire is to live a rich (as in luxuriously simple and overwhelmingly desirable), satisfying life filled with purpose, then you have to realize that you're not there yet. You must be set free. Free from your past, free from your present, and free from what endeavors you had for yourself in the future.

Once you're brave enough to give those all up and realize that you were made for more, you can begin again. How?

For me, it was accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior.

Sure, you may be thinking, Oh, great. Now I'm being preached to. But that's actually not what my intentions are. I'm just sharing with you what freedom is to me, how I got it, and what my life's been like because of it.

There were things and people in my past that hurt me and made me who I am today. If I am anything like my parents, as most of us are, I would have dealt with these struggles the same way that they did in their past, which I have. Seeing as how we are often, if not always, a product of our parents and caretakers as well as victims of our circumstances, it is only natural for us to deal with life the way that we first learned. That could mean all kinds of things - many turn to drugs, to people, to wealth, to health, to education, to abuse, to anything as a means to cope with and/or feel "good" about the way things are going in life. While not all coping mechanisms are unhealthy, it is the way in which we use them that can make it very much so.

I am a recovering addict of matters I'll leave for the next story. I used my coping mechanisms to build me up and make myself appear like I had my life together, however this couldn't be further from the truth.When I got married, things didn't magically get better as most women like to believe. In fact, it was the first time I let someone see into the real me and it wasn't always a pretty sight. I remember one of several fights that Tim and I had regarding my dysfunctionality. The look on his face said it all - there was no way he could help me. I had to figure this out myself. That's when I realized that even after all my life as a Christian, I still hadn't let Jesus set me free. I was still being held prisoner of my past hurts and addictions.

After a lot of back and forths with God, I finally decided to give over my control to Him and allowed His Holy Spirit to reign in me. I put Jesus back on the throne and He led me to the next step. I sought help from a counselor at church and finally let myself go. I let the counselor know everything that I was dealing with and she was able to show me who I am to God, something I had forgotten many years ago. I have since then been whole; fuller than I have ever been in life and I can honestly say things are getting better.

The problem I see in people today is they have forgotten who they are to God and that they belong to God. They have forgotten that He sent Jesus to the world to be an example of love to us. They have forgotten that Jesus died so that they wouldn't have to. They have forgotten that He rose again, symbolic of what we can do when we accept the truth. Because they have forgotten, they can never be freed.

I want people to know that there is freedom at the cross. Their lives weren't meant to be meaningless. Their lives weren't meant only for today, but for a life outside of themselves and this world one day. When you commit your ways to the Lord, everything else in life follows suit. There is hope and freedom for those that desire it. Where there's a will, there is a way.

So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.
John 8:36

That's it for now. Remember life is what you make it! Have a blessed day!


  1. Very nice post. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thank you for reading! It means a lot!

  2. Happy for you! Congrats on your sobriety! :)

    1. Thank you so much! Every day I'm getting better.

  3. Congratulations on overcoming your addiction and your found spirituality. I have to agree that we are a nation of lost people. Thanks for the nice post and continued success to you and your sobriety.

    1. Thank you! I only pray that others will be able to find peace in this journey called life as well.

  4. I will pray for you to stay free !
    Linda Finn
    Faithful Acres Books

    1. Thank you so much! Your prayers mean a lot and I know God will be helping me every step of the way.

  5. Excellent insight. Thank you for sharing. :)

  6. I enjoyed reading this very much. Thank you for telling your story and pointing us to Jesus :)

  7. Thank you for sharing your story. We all take different paths, but thankfully yours led you to Jesus.

  8. Great post and thank you for a sharing a bit of yourself with your readers.